We've all got at least one. Some have more than one. Some must live their lives trying to avoid them.
And when someone finds yours, it hits a nerve that hurts you worse than any dentist can make you feel sitting in his/her chair!
I'm talking about pet peeves.
Those things that other people do that get under your skin and upset you deeply. Rather it be intentional or accidental, finding your pet peeve is something that you always pray that never happens. It irritates you worse than any rash you could get.
In recent years, particularly as I've got older, I've become a bit more irritable about certain things. Politics, crime, taxes, celebrities, and just about anything that gets more than its fair share of attention in the news and social media. The latter has been, in my humble opinion, the primary reason that my blood pressure goes up more often than usual.
However, I'm focusing on one-time events that hit you unexpectedly, and often times unknowingly by others, that might upset someone to the point where they can't think straight for a while. We all have them, even the most level-headed, calm, rational person has them.
As sensitive as I am to those topics I speak of above, I have only a quaint few pet peeves, but I have one that tops them all by a country mile.
Being interrupted when I am talking to someone or to a group of people.
This isn't limited to being verbally interrupted; it includes people visibly disinterested and talking or doing other activities when I am speaking or training a group of people. People playing on cell phones? Whoa! Brings out the Hulk in me!
It's the worst! Blood pressure jumps about 20 points, ears go flush red, I forget my train of thought, and I want to lash out in rage at the violator. To me, it's the penultimate show of disrespect and selfishness. If I catch myself doing that to someone else inadvertently, or I need to interrupt a conversation for an urgent matter, I politely excuse myself, deeply apologize to the speaker first, then to the listener, say what I need to say, apologize again, then remind the speaker of the point they were discussing before I interrupted them.
There are people I work with that are horrible at this. What's worse is that they don't pick up on the signs from me that they've peeved me. I don't think I could visibly show my disgust more if I held up a sign in front of my face! My problem is that I struggle with trying to tell the person that they've hit my most sensitive nerve without blowing off in rage and being unprofessional. Yes, I fight it quite a bit.
Instead, I typically stop talking calmly, look away to distract myself, and then walk away completely if I am not politely redirected into my discussion by the interrupter. That's what usually gets the attention of the listener and the violator. More and more I see that these days, and my reactions get worse and worse, sadly.
What's your biggest pet peeve? Do you bring it to a person's attention when they annoy you with it? How do you handle it, and how do you recommend I go about handling it? I'd appreciate your feedback and comments below. Maybe I can get a little better on my end with my own peeve, and perhaps I can help you.
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